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Sunday, 9 November 2008

The Cruel hand of Fate - A loss of a young life.

Hi,
Yesterday, I drove my son to a very difficult "venue". It was the first time he was to wear a suit and this moment is USUALLY determined by a wedding or dinner out etc. This was far more disturbing and was to show his sincere regret for the death of a very good friend.
When young folk reach a certain age they, and we've all been there, feel they are invincible and always know what is best for them.
Some of you may be thinking "I know what this is about, DRUGS". Well I can tell you that this tragic loss of a young life was not due to drugs but a senseless loss of a young man after a night out with friends, where a "few" drinks were drunk and the night was late, and very cold. The young man, having missed the last bus home from town decided he would be better walking and probably looked forward to the warmth of his familiar house. Unfortunately the rest of the group had failed to notice his departure from the collective group and after determined attempts to locate him failed, they believed he must have gained a lift home and contemplated their own journeys back to warmer environments.
The next morning brought shades of tragic grey to their youthful lives and the news that their jolly mate had been found dead on the local green, only meters from safety, stung their minds and swept remorselessly around the town. A combination of extreme temperatures and alcohol had snatched the life out of this gentle sole. The once joyful expressions and welcomed voice of the lost young man was silent and still.
A disastrous end to a, apparently, wondrous lad would stab at the hearts of some eight hundred attendant's of the funeral. My son believed this young man to be "one of the best people he had ever met" in his own life. "Everyone" thought this loss was indiscriminate and cruel and took the breath from an unmistakable "good guy".
My thought on this disaster of fate is that we must ALL take some portioned responsibility for this event and stride to educate every young person of the dangers of too much drink. Some of us, who have seen ourselves in similar circumstances but who have been allowed to remain safe and comforted must accept the danger for what it is and not take for granted the fact that WE survived our younger trials.
Fate IS cruel and will grab the life from all who lower their guard, so please take care and enjoy yourself wisely and protect yourself and your loved-ones from the anguish of seeing another young life disappear from our part of reality.

DO YOU HAVE A STORY TO TELL??

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Never be afraid or unsure about speaking to your doctor. As the saying goes, "it is better to be sure". Believe me it is always better, my wife and I went five years before we sort help from our doctor, to find out that she was suffering from "fibro-myalgia, angina and high blood-pressure" and I had damage to two areas of my spine and more recently asthma. She ended up in a wheel-chair for three years, only more recently (six years on) being able to walk some times, with great pain.
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Foster or Kinship Care?? DO YOU HAVE A STORY?

A.R.K. ABERDEENSHIRE RELATIVES OF KINSHIP
CAMPAIGNING TO BALANCE THE RIGHTS OF KINSHIP CARERS AND FOSTER CARERS

Serving the North East of Scotland
EQUALITY FOR CHILDREN IN CARE? WHAT DO YOU GET??

FOSTER CARE
Named Social Worker
Child Psychologist Support
Financial Support to £30,000 per year plus expenses.
Paid excursions, amusements, transport, clothing, refreshment.
Regular core meetings, support.
Educational support.
Household expenses covered.
Travelling expenses.
Support from Scottish Executive to the sum of £800.00 (April 2007)

KINSHIP CARE
Limited Support from Non-designated Social Worker
Financial Support of £30.00/£40.00 per week (if lucky) dependant on post code and Social Worker’s commitment.
£50.00 towards school uniform, if you are able to locate and complete forms.
Support from Scottish Executive to the sum of £500.00 (April 2007)

FOCUS ON KINSHIP
Kinship Care provides immediate integration into the family of the affected child(ren). Less stress, generally on the child(ren). Higher chance for the child(ren) to be brought back into feeling positive about their future. Higher chance for a prolonged care period, to adulthood.
Larger “family” backup system.

FOSTER CARE
WHAT IS ON OFFER TO FOSTER CHILDREN.
Basically a child in Foster Care has the World at their finger tips, every effort is made to provide for the wellbeing and financial needs of that child. The Foster Carer is given an Allowance equal to £137.37 per week for a 16 to 18 year old (varies nationally and locally), plus travelling expenses, clothing allowance, bedding allowance, entertainment allowance, etc.
They have support from a named Social Worker who is there to give guidance and extended access to psychologists, doctors, psychiatrists, behavioural advisors, recreational support networks etc.
If a Foster Carer cannot cope with the child in their care, the child is returned for another one!
Problem Fostered Children are “homed” in establishments which charge the Local Authority £2000.00 per week, per child. A mentally challenged/overly aggressive child would be “homed” at a cost of £8000.00 per week.
Foster children are cared for by “strangers”, establishments, institutions.
What is immediately (generally) missing in the process of Fostering a child? Love, compassion, the intimate knowledge of the family history which can aid a child understand the loss of their parent(s).

SPECIAL NOTE: It is accepted that there are exceptional Foster Parents out there, with exceptional talents but generally, especially a short term fostering would cause extreme stress, strain and emotional turmoil for the child in question. This limiting the chances of a progressive and settled “homing” of the already tragically “broken” personality of the child.

KINSHIP CARE
WHAT IS ON OFFER TO A KINSHIP CARED CHILD
Financially a Kinship Cared for child is totally reliant on the member of family who has taken them in. If the Post Code area is supportive of Kinship caring and Social Workers are inclined to devote time to the needs of a child in Kinship Care, you may receive £30.00/£40.00 per week.
Despite the Human Rights Act and Children’s Acts supporting the equality of financial support for Kinship care, Local Authorities do not recognise their obligations to the Law.
As a Kinship Carer you will have to chase, call, write, telephone and pursue, to receive the minimum of assistance from a delinquent support network, which suggests that they have no funds or are unable to support Kinship Care in the way they support Foster Caring.
The Local Authorities are LEGALLY BOUND to provide, at least, the minimum allowance provided to Foster Carers. This is compounded within Human Right Acts, Children’s Act and numerous surveys and studies conducted over the last five to ten years.
Social Work Departments know Kinship Care provides some 46% of all child care, in “disrupted” families. They know Kinship Care saves the Local Authorities hundreds of thousands, if not millions of pounds, every year. Yet, they continue to exploit this amazing resource to the point of obscenity.
Local Authorities are content to degrade this system of highly skilled carers, yet they are again legally expected to provide official recognition for this service and to financially support Kinship Carers at an equal status.
Kinship cared for children are being neglected by Local Authorities and Social Service Departments, who it seems would rather see a child in a Care “Home” at £2000.00 per week, than reinforce the security and family influences of Kinship Carers.
It is time the Local Authority networks developed an effective strategy to support physically and financially the very people who are providing “proper” homes for unfortunate children.
Kinship Care should receive the recognition it deserves and the service identified as invaluable.
There is a National Network of Kinship Carers who are determined to highlight the illegal and damaging attitudes and strategies of Local Authority Social Service Departments.
It is up to YOU to enforce your rights to the physical and financial support that YOUR Local Authority should lawfully provide. It is up to YOUR Local Authority to respect their own duty to the effort and savings that YOU make for it, by your labours and Kinship Care.

YOU ARE WORTH THEIR SUPPORT, AND THEY KNOW IT!
SCEPTIC TANK - YOU TELL US WHAT YOUR LOCAL AUTHORITY SOCIAL SERVICE DEPARTMENT IS FAILING TO DO FOR YOU – regards Kinship Care.

CONTACT US:
Via: http://grandadknows.blogspot.com
G.A.P Grandparents as Parents (National)
Email: grandparentsasparents.co.uk
Kindred Spirits – Dumfries
Email: tuliprippinggale@hotmail.com
PADA/Kinship Carers (Liverpool)
Email: pada@ellergreen0.fsnet.co.uk

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Sunday, 9 November 2008

The Cruel hand of Fate - A loss of a young life.

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