Oh no, not that old chestnut? Well yes, that is the topic of the day.
To say families never argue would be considered ignorant, or maybe naive.Yet, how is it that some families can be understanding and supportive of their counterparts and others feud at every mismanaged comment?
Maybe it is something to do with instability of the family dynamic, or could it be insecurity? I think a combination of the two. Some families find cooperation easy and they reap the fruits of that. To be understanding of "others" and to respect (yes, that word again) their elders and siblings too.
It is so easy to lay blame on other people, in every aspect of life. The family unit provides a hornit's nest of disagreement, jealousy and spite but without these aspects of life, how would we know when life was good?
Too many times, I have seen tears of joy from the proud elder, turn into a face of disappointment and regret. For over thirty years I have "swallowed my pride" and been subservient to the greater good. What has this tactic achieved? Well for a start, I believe, that respect comes about over time. After proving your willingness to forgive (maybe not forget) and by supporting each individual negative event with calm consideration and rational action, you find respect.
The willingness to give respect is as, if not more important than receiving it.
Historic experiences are not always the best of teachers and the more personal and emotional these experiences are, the greater the hurt they can revoke.
It is clear that when disagreement rises from the ranks, fears and insecurities can do their worst. Without calm, deliberate and considerate discussion there is little chance of agreement and/or closure.
It amazes me, how easily some people
blame others for actions and comments that could clearly have been avoided.
The smallest word can save so much agony and hurt, yet it is seldom used as often as it should.
I have "suffered" from a distinct inability to use this word and have found bouts of depression and anxiety following me, as a result. To be honest, I have found great love and a sense of belonging too but there will always be the very slightest of suggestions, that scream out, "what if".
All I can say, is live your life, be as happy as you can be and try to be as honest to yourself as you strive to be with others.
What is this "smallest" word? NO.
Maybe, in my next life, I will do a better job of being me?
Take care. 🐝💤💨
PS: What is it they say, "a bird in the hand"? Special things happen in life. Don't always take life for granted, or those who strive to aid YOUR journey, as you may just miss out on something magical.
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